I recently read a post on Facebook about how a woman was put into an uncomfortable situation on a bus. The caption stated ‘This is why men will never know what it is like to be a woman’.
For the people that have not read it, it’s a short story on her personal experience on a bus involving a strange man, who seemed to think it was acceptable to touch her and rub his crotch after her turning him down for an offer to go for a drink. When she approached the bus driver about it he simply told her to move seats and said something along the lines of ‘you can’t blame him, you’re a pretty girl’.
The thing that appalled me was some of the responses that she got, including the ones where the bus driver should not have fought her battle for her if she wants equal rights? This is not a question of feminism, it still would have been deemed unacceptable if it were a man in her position. All the girl was asking for was some awareness. For people to open their eyes on situations that can or may happen right in front of them.
‘Treat others the way you would like to be treated’
Something we were all told whilst growing up. It should not matter how someone looks. Invading personal space is enough to drive people up the wall but completely breaking the barrier is scary.
You should never be made to feel that unsafe, especially in a public place or on public transport where people have a duty of care.
It should not matter what gender you are, shape, size, age, how you dress… You should not be made to feel stupid after asking for help in a situation that makes you feel uncomfortable or scared.
Would you want to bring a child into this world and want them to be on either end of the situation? Scared of what could happen or thinking they can control someone simply because they want to?
It’s scary to think who is out there sometimes, not only the people doing the bad things to others, the people that refuse to help because they can’t be bothered or don’t feel it is their place to.
What a strange world we do live in.